Mrs. Carol G. McIntyre

  • Born: June 30, 1936
  • Died: September 3, 2021
  • Location: Manasquan Borough, New Jersey

Gray Funeral Home

318 E. Broad Street
Westfield, NJ 07090
Tel. (908) 233-0143

Tribute & Message From The Family

Carol Gloria McIntyre, 85, resident of Four Seasons at Wall, passed away on September 3, 2021.

Carol was a proud New Jersey girl. Born in Newark to Florence and Michael Pompilio, she graduated from Newark's Barringer High School and earned a B.S. in Chemistry from St. Elizabeth's College in Convent Station in 1957. This led her to the Schering Corporation in Bloomfield where she was a chemical documentalist analyzing various medicines for applications in the pharmaceutical industry from 1957 to 1962..
A chance meeting as a college student applying for an inter-term job at Newark City Hall changed the destination of Carol's life when she met Providence College student Michael McIntyre also hired that day to work in the Tax Department. A friendship developed that eventually led to their marriage in 1961 in Newark's St Francis Church. The couple moved to Springfield a year later to begin to raise a family, beautifully blending their Italian and Irish cultures.
In 1976, Mike's work required a move to East Greenwich, R.I. where they remained until 1998, with the exception of one year back in New Jersey. The family flourished through the years with Carol's dedication to the needs of their five children, especially their educations, while she also managed to find time to serve her church and community. When Mike retired in 1998, they came "home" to New Jersey and an active life in the Four Seasons community.
When something really interested Carol, she went for it whole heartedly. In the early years of marriage she became skilled at needlepoint including the extraordinary method and artistic patterns of kazari. The beautiful gifts she created through the years are treasured by extended family and friends.
Carol was also a tough competitor when it came to cards and board games. Winning was the objective, no matter who the opponents. She excelled at Bridge but also loved Canasta, Pinochle and Cribbage. There were even some tough exchanges when her grandchildren challenged her to a game of Scrabble or Clue, but they always ended with good-natured
ribbing, laughter, and "Wait 'til next time".

However, the highlight of Carol's talents was her cooking. Extended family, friends, and even friends of friends were always eager for a seat at her dinner table filled with delicious Italian specialties. They flocked to every birthday, First Communion, Confirmation, and any other occasion to enjoy the feast, and even any other day just for her sandwiches of roasted peppers, provolone and olive oil on crusty Italian bread. She was also known to show up with a dish of her famous sausage and peppers in hand when invited to someone's house, much to the host' s delight.

Carol Pompilio McIntyre lived a full life guided by her Catholic faith and a special devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary. She was loving wife, mother and grandmother, devoted relative, loyal friend, and active member of her community. She will be greatly missed.

Carol was predeceased by her parents, brother Ralph Pompilio, and infant daughter, Paula Margaret. She is survived by her husband, Michael, and children: Michael (Julie), Methuen, MA; Christopher (Jeannie), Mountainside, NJ; Frank (Carol Ann) Westfield, NJ; Caroline, Summit, NJ; and Danielle (Louis) Luther, Basking Ridge, NJ.; and grandchildren: Michael T., Daniel, Sarah, Kyle, Matthew, Robert, Amanda, Chris, Alexandra, Abigail, and Mackenzie.

A Life Celebration will be next Thursday from 4 to 8 pm at Gray Funeral Home in Westfield. Mass of Christian Burial will be 11:30 Friday September 10, 2021 at Holy Trinity R.C. Church in Westfield. You may go to for on line condolences.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. Jude's Children's Research Hospital in Memphis, TN or to Saint Elizabeth University Scholarship Fund, 2 Convent Road, Morristown, NJ 07960.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Dear Mike-- Sorry to hear about Carol passing many fond memories, to you and your entire family.

Posted by Al Jolly Jolly - Manasquan, NJ - Friend   September 12, 2021

Deepest condolences to the whole McIntyre family. Mrs Mac was a special person. So many memories that You all get to cherish. She will be missed for sure! May she test in peace! Love, Nancy, Ryan, Joe & Tyler Keeley

Posted by Nancy Keeley - Saunderstown, RI   September 09, 2021

My heartfelt condolences to you Caroline and to all the McIntyre´s. Your Mom will always hold a special place in my heart and I´m so grateful to have been a part of your family in my teenage years and thereafter. I will never forget the comfort she offered me when I stayed at your house, the amazing food and I even loved when she yelled at us because it was all with a loving heart. May you all cherish the memories and keep her spirit alive in all you do. Love and my sincere condolences- Patricia (Patty).....

Posted by PDQuinn Olsem    September 08, 2021

Our sincere condolences on the passing of Carol. She is in our thoughts and prayers as well as all of you. God Bless,
Brian and Barbara Monteverdi

Posted by Brian Monteverdi Monteverdi - Park Ridge, NJ   September 08, 2021

Dear McIntyre Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you all through this difficult time. I will always keep my amazing memories of Mrs. McIntyre close to my heart. She was such an amazing person. Love you all.
Kelly Marks

Posted by Kelly Marks - Alpharetta, GA - Friend   September 08, 2021


You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I can say that your mom should be proud of the wonderful daughter that she raised. So, glad that you were able to spend time with her prior to her passing. May God give you HIS peace during this time.
God Bless you
Love Ellen Craighead

Posted by Ellen Craighead - Lansdale, PA - Friend   September 07, 2021

Our deepest sympathy to Caroline and her family. We never got a chance to meet your Mom but if you are any semblance of her, we would have loved her as much as we love you. We will continue to hold your family in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. Love, Mark and Cindy Thomas

Posted by Cindy Thomas - Aliquippa, PA - Friend   September 07, 2021

Mike, saddened to hear about Carol's passing. Wish you strength and comfort at this difficult time. You are in my prayers and thoughts.
God Bless, Carl Riley Neighbor Sep 06, 2021

Posted by Carl Riley - Manasquan, NJ - Neighbor   September 07, 2021

Very sorry for your loss.
Your Springfield friend Jim

Posted by Jim Roberts-Valsberg - Friend   September 05, 2021

Danielle & Family:
Erin and I were so sorry to hear about your mom´s passing.
Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers at this very sad time. May she Rest In Peace.

Posted by Sheila Hagenbuch - Friend   September 05, 2021

Our deepest sympathy to Mike, children and grandchildren. I have known Carol for 64 years, and will miss all the fun we had in Chem lab and at the Jersey shore. Carol was a very special friend and will always be cherished. Sy and Regina Kahn.

Posted by Regina Kahn - Springfield, NJ - Friend   September 04, 2021

My sincere condolences to the Mc Intyre family on the passing of Carol. I met Carol while we were students at the College of St. Elizabeth. She was a wonderful person, very giving, and kind. May she Rest In Peace.

Posted by Joann Falco Ranalletti - Wayne, NJ - Acquaintance   September 04, 2021

Our sincerest condolences to the entire McIntyre family. Mrs. Mac was one of a kind!

Posted by Susan Lovegreen - Warwick, NY - Family Friend   September 04, 2021

Our deepest, heartfelt condolences! It was an honor to have known Carol...such a kind person & GREAT friend. I Have so many happy memories of our college days together at St. Elizabeth College!! My friend will be missed and NEVER forgotten! Sincerely, Jan DeVone Meloro & Ralph Meloro

Posted by jan meloro - Cedar Knolls, NJ   September 03, 2021

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